With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, couples everywhere are gearing up for the occasion. Some have been planning for weeks, while others are just now scrambling to make the day special.
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The big question? What makes the perfect gift? Social media is buzzing with discussions, with many turning to Reddit to exchange ideas and inspiration.
One user wrote, “Honestly, a classic box of chocolates with flowers works the best.” Another shared a more personal approach, “I usually make my husband his favorite dessert and get him a couple of healthy snacks he likes.”
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Some are opting for a twist on tradition. “I’ve started to do Valentine’s baskets instead of individual gifts,” one user explained. “I will fill it with little things he likes/needs and some snacks.”
Others are finding sentimental touches go a long way. “Last year I got him flowers from our wedding florist’s shop and fancy chocolates, and he absolutely loved it and told everyone about it. A lot of men have never received flowers,” one person pointed out.
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And for those who prefer a minimalist approach, one response summed it up in just three words, “Time, hug, poetry.” As Valentine’s Day approaches, the conversation about the “best” gift continues to unfold. One thing is clear: meaningful gifts don’t need to come with a hefty price tag.
For some, the best gifts are homemade. One Redditor suggested that a thoughtful gesture, such as baking or cooking a meal, can show more care than an expensive purchase. “It’s about showing you think about them and care, not about spending money on extravagant gifts,” they wrote.
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Others emphasized the power of a personal, handwritten note. “A handwritten card is always a romantic gesture,” one user pointed out. Some ideas were a bit more unconventional. One Redditor mentioned that many men don’t receive flowers. “I think he would be touched to receive one. It does not even have to be a bouquet,” they shared.
There were also practical suggestions for those who know their partner’s hobbies. A detailed comment recommended combining a small gift related to their interest—whether it’s a hobby or favorite sport—with a home-cooked meal.
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And when it comes to planning the evening, it’s all about making it personal. Some men might want a quiet night in with no decisions to make, while others may enjoy planning something with you. The key is to ask directly what your partner would like. “Men are easy—just ask him point blank what he might want to do,” a Redditor suggested.
Another user shared a favorite approach, “Make him dinner, whatever his favorite meal is, paired with a bottle of wine,” they recommended. A simple yet thoughtful way to make the evening special.
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Whether you’re shopping for a longtime partner or someone you just started dating, finding the perfect Valentine’s Day gift can be tricky. The wrong choice could send the wrong message, and according to etiquette expert Lisa Mirza Grotts, “A gift should never spark discomfort or controversy.”
For new couples, certain gifts are best avoided—especially anything related to weight loss. Fitness equipment might seem like a thoughtful idea, but unless your partner specifically asks for it, it’s better to steer clear.
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Even a Pilates class could come off the wrong way. Instead, Grotts recommends something self-care-focused, like a spa day. Gym memberships, she warned, can feel “insulting and judgmental.”
She also advised against giving men stereotypically “manly” gifts. “Tool equipment when they don’t enjoy man cave activities” might not go over well. Similarly, gag gifts can be risky. While a “World’s Worst Dad” T-shirt might seem funny to you, the recipient may not share the humor.
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As for men unsure about what to get their new girlfriends, Grotts said it’s better to stay off household cleaning supplies as it may send a message that you “need domestic help,” she explained.
Longtime couples often fall into the habit of giving the same predictable gifts year after year. But according to Grotts, it’s important to keep things thoughtful and personal.
